There is a deep-down part of us that has evolved to need human-to-human contact. This is the contact that comforts our spirits and let’s us know that we are not alone in the world. In reality, we can have enormous lists of friends and still feel completely alone. According to neuroscientists, when we really connect in face-to-face conversation, parts of our brains literally begin to synchronize. This keeps us attached to each other. It can help keep us securely coupled together.
Sometimes, there are just those days. These are the mornings that the alarm doesn’t go off at the right time, when the kids aren’t cooperative in getting out the door to school, and the toast gets burned in the toaster. Maybe you leave your house later than normal and get caught behind the school bus convoys that seem to stop at every single corner. Then you realize you forgot your lunch.
We live our lives at such a pace that staying present is difficult for us. We get distracted by cell phone dings and notifications while we are sitting around the dinner table with the loved ones we haven’t seen all day. We get caught up in trying to figure out how get that stain out of our favorite shirt while our kids are wanting to play.
The desire to make resolutions to change something about ourselves can be motivated by a lot of different factors. Sure, they can come from a place of simply wanting to take a more positive direction. But, they can also come from a place of self-criticism or doubt. This time of year can be tough because of the memories that are brought up or the anxieties that get triggered.
This technique is one that I often use with kids but it's great for adults too! Learning to control our breathing is a simple but effective way to help relieve anxiety. When you stop to breathe, it often slows down those anxious thoughts and can help you stay centered and in the moment.